Another First Time ...

[Aaron Stern]

Now that I'm 18 years old, I for the first time in my life rented and watched a
xxx-rated movie. As you would expect, it was very graphic. I watched it once and
felt nothing but, well nausea is too strong a word, but it's the only one that comes to
mind. Or let's say uneasiness because I thought it was not my business to stare at
other people's "private activity". In other words, it didn't do a thing for me and it was
just a waste of time and money. I grew up in a nudie family and I see naked people
every day (mostly my mom and dad, my sister, my girlfriend and members of her
family who live next door), but I never in my life saw, as a spectator, any of them nor anybody else "doing it", and I don't want to ever see it, it's private, and I don't think "actors" in those movies are happy people for that very reason (money aside). A friend of mine who isn't a nudie rents those movies once or twice a week, I suspect he's addicted to them even though he has a girlfriend.
My suspicion is that people who grow up as nudies and who's parents are open and
tolerant towards nudity react differently than those who grow up in an anti-nudity
environment. That may sound like a truism, but could it be true? Your thoughts,
please! Aaron

[craig27]

Kids these days are so spoiled by the internet.  Takes all the joys of adolescence away.

[Danee]

Kids these days are so spoiled by the internet.  Takes all the joys of adolescence away.

Hey Craig.  Are you with Doug now in the 'older world'?  Unlike CFF forums the kids on here really don't tolerate that kind of attitude boi!  Watch your back. They outnumber you and its their (and your) forum! 

[Bobbert]

Seeing nudity in movies like that is certainly not the positive experience that naturism can be.

This article on The Onion today seems relevant: http://www.theonion.com/content/news_briefs/pornography_desensitized

[rc]

I don't like porn for several reasons, becuase I think that only certian girls would do  that and those would be your former high school "loose girls" it is kind of weak for you to give up on dating and just go wacth of viedo of people "doing it"

[Nudly]

Now that I'm 18 years old, I for the first time in my life rented and watched a
xxx-rated movie. As you would expect, it was very graphic. I watched it once and
felt nothing but, well nausea is too strong a word, but it's the only one that comes to
mind. Or let's say uneasiness because I thought it was not my business to stare at
other people's "private activity". In other words, it didn't do a thing for me and it was
just a waste of time and money. I grew up in a nudie family and I see naked people
every day (mostly my mom and dad, my sister, my girlfriend and members of her
family who live next door), but I never in my life saw, as a spectator, any of them nor anybody else "doing it", and I don't want to ever see it, it's private, and I don't think "actors" in those movies are happy people for that very reason (money aside). A friend of mine who isn't a nudie rents those movies once or twice a week, I suspect he's addicted to them even though he has a girlfriend.
My suspicion is that people who grow up as nudies and who's parents are open and
tolerant towards nudity react differently than those who grow up in an anti-nudity
environment. That may sound like a truism, but could it be true? Your thoughts,
please! Aaron

I would have to agree with your suspicion, though purely from thought and not personal experience, that first is not on my list. I can live without it.

[Jackie24]

Yes the Nudity is nothing in a XXX film. Although the sex is usually unrealistic and more mechanical than loving.

Love Jackie

[craig27]

Kids these days are so spoiled by the internet.  Takes all the joys of adolescence away.

Hey Craig.  Are you with Doug now in the 'older world'?  Unlike CFF forums the kids on here really don't tolerate that kind of attitude boi!  Watch your back. They outnumber you and its their (and your) forum! 

I was being sarcastic.  I was amazed that he managed to get to 18 without seeing one before, with all the access kids have to things now.

[Neonude]

makes me wonder though if sexual attraction among people that call themselves nudists is based on other things then one among people who are raised in more traditional way.

[Nudly]

There are arguements both for and against and I am not going to decide which is better. Personally, I will take a great personality and a half decent body over a stunning super model anyday of the week.

To have a good relationship, you need personality.

[Bobisnekkid]

makes me wonder though if sexual attraction among people that call themselves nudists is based on other things then one among people who are raised in more traditional way.

I would say so, there's a much deeper level of attraction between me and my wife that goes wayyy beyond physical. I would definitely say that nudism has helped create that depth. Once the body becomes less sexualized (it never becomes unsexual, women will always be physically attractive to me, and my wife's body will always turn me on to a certain degree, even when it's old and wrinkly) one must dig into the personality of the other in order to be sexually attracted.

I would guess that for many in the textile world, most sexual attraction is based less on personality and more on physical characteristics.

[ComputationJason]

Porn doesn't appeal to me because porn is not what I think of when I think of sex.  To me, sex is more than a penis in a vagina.  Sex is a relationship between two people.  Porn does not capture this relationship.  Sex is about being vulnerable, and trust; about the joining of one person's most sensitive parts with those of another.

That's why I think sex is best enjoyed in a long-term relationship.  I think there is something very meaningful about the process of learning about your partner's body, and your partner learning about yours.  There is something comforting when you are with someone who knows your body better than anyone else.  Of course, there's also the fact that such a partner will know exactly what you like. 

Sex, to me, is an expression of a deep emotional bond.  Sex is compassionate, sex is affectionate.  Sex is an experience that is completely focused on your partner, and the relationship you have with your partner.  Meanwhile, pornography is neither compassionate nor affectionate.  Pornography is not made for the sake of those engaged in the sexual act, it is made for customers of the final product.

[Aaron Stern]

Well said, CJ; I agree 100%. When I saw that "movie" I immediately thought to my-
self that the most important part was just missing, namely compassion and a genuine
relationship between those two people involved; they might as well "do it" with the
next person that showed up for the next scene, and they did. But what was of greater
interest to me, having grown up in a nudie family: there was no excitement to see
it for a second time or wanting to rent another such movie; whereas many non-
nudies can't get enough of them to a point where it's border-line addiction, I as a
dyed-in-the-wool nudie couldn't care less. My 2-cents. Aaron

[ChristineF]

Porn doesn't appeal to me because porn is not what I think of when I think of sex.  To me, sex is more than a penis in a vagina.  Sex is a relationship between two people.  Porn does not capture this relationship.  Sex is about being vulnerable, and trust; about the joining of one person's most sensitive parts with those of another.

That's why I think sex is best enjoyed in a long-term relationship.  I think there is something very meaningful about the process of learning about your partner's body, and your partner learning about yours.  There is something comforting when you are with someone who knows your body better than anyone else.  Of course, there's also the fact that such a partner will know exactly what you like. 

Sex, to me, is an expression of a deep emotional bond.  Sex is compassionate, sex is affectionate.  Sex is an experience that is completely focused on your partner, and the relationship you have with your partner.  Meanwhile, pornography is neither compassionate nor affectionate.  Pornography is not made for the sake of those engaged in the sexual act, it is made for customers of the final product.

I couldn't agree more..... on one of my first dates with my boyfriend we somehow ended up on the subject of porn. I was surprised (since I didn't know him all that well yet) when he said he had never watched a porn movie. His thing is, what's the point in watching someone else?

[Aaron Stern]

Porn doesn't appeal to me because porn is not what I think of when I think of sex.  To me, sex is more than a penis in a vagina.  Sex is a relationship between two people.  Porn does not capture this relationship.  Sex is about being vulnerable, and trust; about the joining of one person's most sensitive parts with those of another.

That's why I think sex is best enjoyed in a long-term relationship.  I think there is something very meaningful about the process of learning about your partner's body, and your partner learning about yours.  There is something comforting when you are with someone who knows your body better than anyone else.  Of course, there's also the fact that such a partner will know exactly what you like. 

Sex, to me, is an expression of a deep emotional bond.  Sex is compassionate, sex is affectionate.  Sex is an experience that is completely focused on your partner, and the relationship you have with your partner.  Meanwhile, pornography is neither compassionate nor affectionate.  Pornography is not made for the sake of those engaged in the sexual act, it is made for customers of the final product.

I couldn't agree more..... on one of my first dates with my boyfriend we somehow ended up on the subject of porn. I was surprised (since I didn't know him all that well yet) when he said he had never watched a porn movie. His thing is, what's the point in watching someone else?

 , Christine; and I would like to add: right he is, with a beautiful girl like you, who needs such a "movie"? Aaron