How to tell a friend.

[Disenchanted]

Well, some of you people definately told a friend or maybe more than one that you\'re a nudist. How did you tell them? And what\'s the safest way to try and have a social nudity experience with a friend that you don\'t want to scare with your request to be naked with them?

[louisstj]

Hi you could try it this way i introduced a friend of mine to being naked last month.

I had him sleepover a couple of times he got used to being naked around me after showers and i sleep naked he noticed i had no tan lines so i told him about the beach we go to and asked him if he wanted to come with us .

He was a bit scared at first i think being naked in fnont of my mum was hardest but when i stripped off and ran in the water he followed .

Since then he\'s come with us a couple of times .

hope this helps Louis.

[mearathon]

I think he meant how to get them to get naked with you in the first place.

[Anonymous]

I don\'t bother to tell a friend. When we go for a swim and we are at the rite place I just go skinny  dippin and my friends  follow behind. When I\'m at home I do what I please and my friends don\'t care. I think they get the picture.

[Disenchanted]

I think he meant how to get them to get naked with you in the first place.

And to tell them and just persuade them to think about nudism as a good thing.

WITHOUT being pushy.

[didi]

I don\'t bother to tell a friend. When we go for a swim and we are at the rite place I just go skinny  dippin and my friends  follow behind. When I\'m at home I do what I please and my friends don\'t care. I think they get the picture.

I also find that my friends accept me just the way I am. I haven\'t told anyone of of them I\'m a nudist, somehow saying that to someone whose not a nudist most likely spurs a negative reaction mainly because they\'re not familiar with the concept... trying to convince them that it\'s innocent and not perverted is much more difficult, but getting them curious by allowing them to connect the dots without telling them works wonders!

My friends are used to seeing me without clothes, I don\'t close my bathroom door when taking a shower, don\'t mind dressing in front of them, strip of and skinny dip when ever the opportunity presents itself, undress and lie in the sun... thats just how I am, they kinda expect me to be like that and they know I\'m comfortable in front of them. All this has made them extremely comfortable doing the same in front of me, they normally join in the skinny dipping or sun tanning and when I visit don\'t mind dressing or taking a shower in front of me. I haven\'t been to any naturist resorts, but I\'m sure if I asked anyone whether they want to go to one with me they would...

[nudeboy23]

I hope to tell someone someday about it.

[Pyre]

I do life modelling and I usually approach that subject first and then just tell them that I go to nudist beaches etc etc. Most of the time people want to know more about it in a hesitant kind of way, others don\'t, it\'s up to them. But ultimately it\'s up to you if you want to tell them but if they do they they have no upper ground upon which to judge you! I just say something like, \'I prefer an all over tan\' or \'I don\'t like tan lines\' and if people want to talk about it more then fine, if not then I\'m not going to push them to talk about it!

[joush]

(second post lol)
i\'m pretty much a closet nudist dude, but i\'ve told one of a gal friend on aim. i said, \"i was thinking about nudism\", and she was all, \"was i supposed to be shocked or somthing?\". and apearently she loves to go skinny dipping. i find it easier (in the case of my one experience) if you have one friend that\'s a girl and you\'ve known her for a long time (in my case since kidnergarden). just because on the whole, girls are more excepting than guys. and there not so homophobic.

p.s. i\'m not gay, haha

[jacob078]

When I got into naturism I was sharing a house with a couple of women. I\'d basically only be naked in my room, but as one of the girl\'s had her room across the 3 foot square upstairs landing I\'d often find myself talking to her from my room. She\'d walked in on me a couple of times, but the real point at which I \"came out\" to her as a nudist I was having a conversation with her whilst I tidied my room with the door open. We\'d occasionally stand near our open doors to say something and at one point we were both stood in our respective thresholds at the same time, or at least long enough for her to notice I was naked. She asked me if I was naked (which I thought was self evident!),and I answered in the affirmative, asking whether or not she had a problem with it. She claimed to be a \"country girl\" and that it didn\'t bother her. I recall making a half-hearted attempt to cover up behind the door, but then decided not to. We chatted about nudism for a little while then, and her experiences going topless on nudist beaches abroad, and of course the second topic that ever seems to come up in these discussions, the unwanted erection.

It was quite a pleasant experience for me, though I must admit to getting a bit of a cheap thrill whenever her eyes dropped. I\'d often be naked around her after that, and it allowed me to be more open and social when naked in my room.

[Anonymous]

I never told anyone I\'m a nudist, but all my friends know I far from being modest In the summer you can find me skinny dippin,  at the house in the yard washing the dirt bikes nude.

[Disenchanted]

Well the guy I want to tell would be so much fun to hang out nude except for the fact that he\'d not understand at first. He\'d think it was gross/for old people/for hippies/gay. I wanna tell him though, even though I know he won\'t react too well. So what exactly should I do to go about that?

[retort]

i was thinking about something like this last night.. i think the easiest way would be if you\'re at a lake/cottage/camping or something, to suggest skinny-dipping in a half-joking manner.  see his reaction, maybe push it a little bit, and if he goes for it then you can ask later on if he\'d ever go to a nude beach, or whatever.  if he doesn\'t want to, you can ask why and try to convince him or just drop the subject if he\'s really against it.

[Anonymous]

thats what I kinda ment by my post I never look at my self as a nudist but I do skinny dip and walk out in the yard nude sooooo I gess I am and for the frnds that follow me when I go skinny dippin I would have to say they are to.

[Anonymous]

This is a topic I\'m not sure I could give much advice on.  The only thing I would say is try to cater to their interests.  One person I tried to tell was a very devout person, so I started with a religious argument.  Unfortunately, with him, he believed completely different, and I never got around to telling him I was a nudist.  Both of our arguments were circular and we weren\'t going anywhere with the topic, so I dropped it.  We sort of fell apart after that, sadly.

Bad example, really.  But this also stands as a testament that not every method is tried and true, and occasionally, there are cases you cannot let them know without seriously endangering a friendship.

(BTW, in retrospect, the former friend I was referring to also stayed home after high school; I went to college half a state away.  We just sort of stopped talking after awhile.  Last I heard, he was getting married and entering into a pastoral position.)