Nude at home

[heavenzdelight]

Hey Jason!

I know how you feel with your mum, my dad stays with us everynow and again and I love having him around and spending time with him. As we were growing up he was the most in the nude out of all of us and strange enough now my younger sister, me and my mum are now the most nude around the house (out of the house i take the trophie!!!) anyway i don\'t go naked around my dad thou and either does Drew (my hubby). Its kinda like it becomes a girl thing in our family all the girls walk around nude but the guys retreat to thier bedrooms... very strange. I dunno what it is but i don\'t intend on going nude infront of my dad and i know i\'ll be seriously embarrsed when/if he ever catches me nude. I really don\'t know why even thou i\'ve even been on TV and in magazines nude. Its like respect or something, i dunno, but i know how you feel.
Cheers Heaven

[sara]

Interesting point Sara. Just to clarify matters, I\'d be far happier sharing a house with people I liked who didn\'t want to see me naked, than I would with fellow naturists that I didn\'t get on with. (I hope that sentence makes sense...) Having said that, I generally get on best with people who accept me for what I am. The fact that so far I\'ve had the best of both worlds is something I\'m grateful for, and I\'m well aware that I have been pretty lucky with nearly all of my housemates.

Thanks, Saralee, it makes perfect sense to me too. . I was in my previous post more just responding to what Michael had said.   It was really interesting to hear about your experiences and I thought you handled it all really well.  It gave me some food for thought as the best way to be true to myself and also keep up good relationships.  As I indicated,  I tend always to shie away from creating uncomfortable situations, arguably too much so as some people have occasionally told me.

I was more just responding to Michael\'s post and speaking for my own feelings.  I was brought up in a naturist house and although I am now at uni, home is still very much a base that whenever I go back I feel very comfortable.  Athough as we each say we are happy amongst true friends not being nude, I do realise, particularly when I am at home, that all things being equal I am happiest and most relaxed just being able to go about things without clothes.

I am, I think, slowly coming round to the view that I should maybe be a bit more open with certain people that I am happiest being naked.  At least i would be being more open as to my true self, and hey you never know maybe I could find I had more in common with some people than I ever realised.

Sara 

[Aymz]

thanks Saralee for your posts, it\'s great to hear from another girl experiencing similar situations to the ones i\'m in.

last year, living in halls, there were times when i wondered why it was so important for me to have the freedom to wear what i wanted.  i don\'t know if i\'ve ever said before, but my decision to get the whole naturism thing out in the open came for me out of feelings of homesickness i\'d been having.

i grew up in a home that was fairly permissive in lots of ways, not just in terms of nudity, and so i had never felt the need to moderate much of my behaviour to accomodate other people.  then i went to living with 7 strangers and suddenly i had to start being very aware of what people thought of me and the things i said and did, and i wanted to make friends with everybody so i didn\'t end up alone.  i didn\'t want to upset anybody or step on anybody\'s toes or give anyone a reason to dislike me.

this led to me saying and doing some things which i felt weren\'t really my being true to myself, because i thought i had to in order to fit in.  and this was something i found very restrictive and caused me to really miss the atmosphere of home.  it got me questioning whether i\'d made the right choice in coming here and that was hard.

so i guess in a way my \"coming out\" as a naturist to a group of people i hardly knew, while a difficult thing to do, was for me a way of rebelling against the whole atmosphere of the place as much as anything, of me saying stuff it, i\'m here so i may as well be happy, even if there\'s a chance people might not like it.  at least i\'m letting them see the real me.

what would i have done if i\'d faced a hostile reaction?  i don\'t know.  probably been very unhappy and wondered why i had put myself through that just so i could walk from my room to the kitchen without putting a robe on.  but it was important to me because i knew i wanted to recreate some of the freedom i had at home with the people i was living with then.  if i couldn\'t achieve that beacuse of someone else\'s prejudices well, i hadn\'t really lost anything except maybe causing a few people to think i was weird.  but i had to try.

as it was, it was probably a bigger deal to me than it was to them.  i discovered a lot of people simply had the \"it\'s a free country...\" attitude - they weren\'t exactly bowled over by the prospect of seeing me walking around naked, but i was doing so in a place that was as much mine as it was theirs and so they didn\'t really feel that it was anything to be concerned about.  i don\'t think most of them ever accepted me as a naturist in terms of understanding why i was living this way, but i think they got used to the facts (i.e. i didn\'t always wear clothes and i wasn\'t embarassed about being nude in front of other girls, or guys - not that the latter ever really came up).  but they weren\'t interested in the big ideas behind it, my motivation, why i felt i had to do this.  so i wasn\'t going to press the issue there.

now i live with only one other person, i\'m engaging with her on a much more personal level about my naturism.  when Emma and i talked about getting a flat together i said straight up: before you agree to live with me i think you should know, i\'m a naturist, i have a life philosophy on nudity and clothing and i prefer to not wear clothes around the house a lot of the time.  but i also said that i wanted to live with her regardless of how she felt because she was my friend, and if she had a problem with my naturism i would try and respect her feelings, although i couldn\'t guarantee that she wouldn\'t see me naked at all.  and Emma of course said that she had no problem seeing another girl naked, and that while she thought it was a pretty unusual way of life it was my choice and my life and she could respect that.

since we\'ve been living together we\'ve spoken more about naturism and nudity than i have wth any of my other friends.  i\'ve told her about my family and growing up, about visiting c/o beaches, and that i\'m involved with an online naturist community and have naturist friends online.  she has said she actually really likes the relaxed atmosphere we have in our flat, that while she doesn\'t feel the need to be casually nude like i am, she knows that if she ever did want to be, or had to be, that it wouldn\'t be a big deal for me.

so for me, certainly, being open with friends has a lot of positive results.

[Noodie]

I am, I think, slowly coming round to the view that I should maybe be a bit more open with certain people that I am happiest being naked.  At least i would be being more open as to my true self, and hey you never know maybe I could find I had more in common with some people than I ever realised.

^ What she said! ^

It\'s reading through threads like this that make me feel that way. Reading about people\'s positive experiences, in being open and explaining to people that they are actually more comfortable without clothes, well, it makes me wonder if I wouldn\'t be happier if I did the same.

For me personally though, I\'m still not sure that I would be. I feel very much the same way Sara does, I think. I would much rather back away from creating a potentially uncomfortable situation, than potentially reap what, for me, would likely be a rather small reward. Although naturism is very much a part of my life and although I do tend to be nude more than clothed, when I can be, it\'s not like I feel overwhelmingly uncomfortable when clothed - indeed, I could be nude right now, but I\'m not (hey, it\'s cold!)

I suppose I just feel that it\'s unnecessary to \'inflict\', for want of a better word, my lifestyle choices on other people who aren\'t, or may not be, similarly minded. It probably sounds ridiculous, but I almost feel that it would be rude!

Anyway, to sum my feelings up, I don\'t feel that I\'m being untrue to myself by not going out there on the rooftops and shouting \"hey everyone, I\'m a naturist!\" or even by making some compromises to account for the likely feelings of others. In so many ways, I do that everyday. I don\'t think there\'s anything wrong with that.

But.... yeah, reading all these positive experiences is slowly bringing me around to another way of thinking. The most important point for me was Sara\'s last sentence \"maybe I could find I had more in common with some people than I ever realised\". I see that as the key potential benefit for me. The combination of some recent revelations that I didn\'t expect, along with reading your positive experiences, ladies, has given me plenty to think about over recent days - so thank you.

[Bboy1986]

I just do it when my parents aren't home, now however I am living at college and haven't really discussed it with my roommate.

[henchman]

Me and my wife decided to go naked whenever we want, but always do communicate with each others if we are expecting visitors. And make sure they do not see us naked. We will first start to talk to them about it, when the time is right, then take it as it comes. That is for those friends who are not naturists, otherwise we will ask the naturist friends who wants to visit us, if we are going to be naked, then just being naked when they are there...

[piano man]

I'm in the same boat as most of you guys! I am lucky though because my parents work all day. During the summer I can get away with being nude all day up until when everyone comes home. I usually sleep in the basement, and no one else goes down there save for laundry once a week. I can get all my chores done while everyone is out and spend the rest of the day bare in the basement 

[pjbeachfun]

I live alone so it's not a big deal. Sleep naked, take my time getting dressed after the shower. Not as much into just sitting around with nothing on, though. I guess I fall somewhere in the middle of the spectrum. For most things, I don't mind wearing clothes, but I enjoy going to the beach and lying out nude, as well as other "water" activities like hot tub, steam and sauna. 

[mccoy_j2]

I am nude in my room and usually when I am working on stuff in my garage. I also spend as much time as possible nude when I am home alone. I have also slept nude since I was fourteen.

[JA]

This is a really interesting thread. Thankyou Bboy for reviving it.

When I was a teenager living at home I was pretty secretive about my naturism. On hot nights I would sometimes sneek out and have a quick skinny dip in the backyard pool, and I would sometimes be naked around the house but only when no-one else was home. This is even after I'd been to a nude beach with my dad and had often seen him naked around the house! (though you wouldn't really call him a naturist). When I moved out of home and lived in several different apartments, I would often be naked when no one was around, but never when they were, it was still very much a secret. Now I am living with my girlfriend and she is fine with me being naked around the house, and she occasionally does it too when its hot, and she sleeps naked. Though she's definitely not a naturist and finds the whole thing a bit weird. But at least she lets me do my thing.

I've never had too much of a problem letting other people know about my naturism. I dont exactly shout it from the roof tops, but if it gets mentioned, people never seem all that shocked. But I dont have any naturist friends, so its pretty much confined to at home and occasionally at the beach.

Its interesting that someone brought up the issue of change rooms. It seems kind of strange that a lot of guys will go to great lengths to cover themselves up, and it seems to be more the case in younger people. I used to be pretty shy in change rooms, but now I'm totally not, so there's hope for everyone I guess. From what I've heard, the changing room thing was non-issue for guys just a few decades ago. (I guess homophobia is one of the reasons its become an issue, so weird). All it does is make people more alienated and suspicious of each other. Such paranoia is not healthy.

Anyway, its been really interesting reading about people's experiences of being naked at home, especially Saralee. Lets keep this thread going!

[skeeter7206]

i live alone at an apartment at college so i really dont have to make any special arrangements.

[coasterjudge]

For me, I live in a small basement apartment, there are five of us downstairs, and 5 of some of the most conservative people I have ever met who wouldn't give nudism a single thought and would immidiately put it down as wrong and sinful live upstairs. But they're still great people.

Anyway, the other four in my apartment are my Mom, Stepdad Rese, my gandmother (we call her Nana) and my sister Naomi.

Nana just moved in, and I don't think she knows about my nudism, but Mom, Rese, and Naomi, know about it.

The philosophy in our house is that you can do whatever you want as long as it's legal and doesn't encroach on their freedom (basically doesn't make them feel uncomfortable or in danger)

When I told them that I want to practice nudism, they said all right, I just had to keep it in my room, and to wear a robe if I was going to the bathroom. So that's usually where I'm nude. In my room.

I don't think my family are totally ok with nudism, because when I told my parents about it they decided to hang a sheet over the door to the literal closet that is my room, so they couldn't see. And I can't exactly talk to them about it.

So I'm usually nude in the mornings from when I get up before everyone else to when Nana is up, and at night after everyone has gone to bed, and only in my room. When they all go to wood village for some shopping I sometimes go nude around the house, but my paranoia about being caught keeps kicking in.

It is definitly difficult, and I wish I had some nudist friends nearby, so that I could just go for visit, strip down, and hang out without worrying about being caught. But until then I make do.

[saurus]

I kind of feel that home naturism is less important to me than social experiences, however maybe thats because ever since I became a naturist I have had pretty much all the freedom I have needed at home.

I got my start in naturism when I first got my own flat, a couple of years ago.  I was aware of naturism already and it interested me, but this was my first time of living by myself and pretty much straight away I stopped wearing clothes at home when it was warm enough to go without.

So that was pretty much the norm for me there for 2 years.  Now I have moved in with my girlfriend a week ago.  It's a little too cold in our house to be going without clothes at the moment but my gf has said she has no problem with me hanging round the house in the nude whenever I want, so I'm sure I will do it as much as I want to when it's warmer!

[Uberreicher]

Sounds like she might come around to going nude herself.

[saurus]

I hope she will.

She is not shy about being naked but she does have some body issues which surface from time to time, which I think mean she doesn't find nudity as enjoyable as I do a lot of the time.  I think if she did enjoy it then that would be perfect.