Nudity and Sex

[Wolf]

When someone asks one of us about this lifestyle, one of the first things most of us say, is usually “Nudity doesn’t equal Sex”. However, I’ve wondered a few times about something, and decided to try to post the question here. I’ve not done so before now, and even now still a little unsure of it, because it might be too personal for some. So if you do no wish to answer or think this is too personal, I can understand, and if the mods feel the need to lock this, I will understand that as well.

While Nudity doesn’t equal sex, and we try to make that point as strongly and as often as possible, Do you think this lifestyle has had an effect on the sexual relationships? I’m just curious what effect, if any it has. Since the last time I was in a position to answer that question, I was pretty new to the boards, though not necessarily the ideas, so im not sure if im really qualified to answer myself. What I will say is that, for me, it doesn’t effect me, until she is trying to get that particular effect.

Do most of you feel the same way? Again I realize this might be a pretty personal question, so please do not feel you should answer. I hope none of you look down on me for it, but my curiosity has finally gotten the best of me on this question.

[Danee]

Wolfie, no-one will look down on you for asking a question that many people ask of real naturists once they  become friends and have the knowledge that we are into the lifestyle. It is asked very often.

Speaking about issues or topics which are normal parts of human life has never been something I am not willing to do if I feel comfortable discussing them with the people around me.  It is a logical good question, even if one is not sexually active yet.  

My sexual life has not been affected in any way by my lifestyle and I say that having grown up IN that lifestyle.  Has it been enhanced?  I am not sure really.  I know that coming from a young person who regarded boys as boys and that was that to a person who regarded boys as \'something more\' was easier.  More comfortable.  Knowledge was there of course, anatomy knowledge. Life knowledge.  I am able to differentuate between both \'nudities\' but that does not mean that one cannot have thoughts or feelings when in a socially naturist environment either. We all do I am sure.  We do in malls or driving a car or whatever.  I mean by that statement that we have thoughts during the day dealing with every aspect of human life.

So, no, it has not affected my sexual life at all except as far as healthy knowledge about anatomy and physical differences.

-Danee

[Anonymous]

As someone new to naturism i\'m probably not the best to comment on this but I can on an intention point of view. As a \"wanna-be-naturist\" I don\'t want to get naked to have sex. I can get that from a nightclub if I really want.

I\'ve been with girlfriends where we\'ve both been nude around the house and it hasn\'t always been sexual. It could be getting ready for bed, getting changed in the morning... but you know when it\'s about sex and when it\'s not.

[jeep]

Good post Scottn.

No it has not affected my sexlife either. My wife seeing me naked does not make her aroused any more or less than she would be if i were clothed and vice versa. As for me, i cant speak for the missus but i get sexual thoughts with the same frequency as when i am clothed. The only diference is that with being nude male arousal its more noticable so you take steps to conceal it from the kids or other nudists. But with that said mature nudists or those that socialise with them understand that certain bodily reactions are part of life so if they glimps the beginings of the odd \"Stiring of the loins\" before an individual can conceal it they just ignore it.

[HarleyNude]

Great topic Scott!

I can tell you from a couple of different perspectives (about my before and after nudism experiences) with sexual relationships that nudism hasn\'t hurt my sex life at all.  Prior to taking a large interest in nudism, I too wondered if it would make me \"numb\" to seeing so much nekkid flesh... well no worries there...  As others have said earlier... you have the ability to turn it \"on\" and turn it \"off\" when the mood is right and appropriate.  I\'ve taken lots of hot girls with me to various events in our area, and although I\'m very attracted to some of them, it hasn\'t presented any \"problems\".

I did have one girlfriend last year on her first visit to a club, asked me how guys can find women non sexual in one moment, yet erotic later that evening in bed.  I told her it simply had to do with the mood of the moment.  She wasn\'t doing anything to \"get me going\" during the day outside at the club, however later that evening in our tent, we were alone, together and snuggling.  There was a difference....

I do think nudism HAS enhanced my sex life tremendously.  I am more confident around girls and it shows.  I don\'t have any hangups about how I \"compare\" to other guys.... which although it never really was an issue before... showed me that very few guys are exceptional.   Therefore, armed with that knowledge .. can only help you realize that what matters to a girl is more of what is between your ears...

I like Danee\'s thoughts when she said
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\"My sexual life has not been affected in any way by my lifestyle.  Has it been enhanced?  I am not sure really.  I know that coming from a young person who regarded boys as boys and that was that to a person who regarded boys as \'something more\' was easier.  More comfortable.  Knowledge was there of course, anatomy knowledge. Life knowledge.  I am able to differentuate between both \'nudities\' but that does not mean that one cannot have thoughts or feelings when in a socially naturist environment either. We all do I am sure.  We do in malls or driving a car or whatever.  I mean by that statement that we have thoughts during the day dealing with every aspect of human life.\"
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That kinda says it all...

Ryan

[Danee]

Ry, that was very well put together and explained it completely.  It simply is how it is.

 

[Pyre]

I\'m not sure in myself whether it has made any difference but I think that it has made me more sexually confident because I\'m comfortable with being naked and I think that plays an important part in a sexual relationship. If you\'re comfortable with your body then there\'s less to worry about and you can be more confident in the way in which you express yourself and what you do. There\'s no problem with being shy getting undressed for example, worrying about what the other person may think. But I agree with the posts that have already been made in that there is a time and a place, and there is a difference between social nudity and sexual nudity!

[Wolf]

I do think nudism HAS enhanced my sex life tremendously.  I am more confident around girls and it shows.  I don\'t have any hangups about how I \"compare\" to other guys.... which although it never really was an issue before... showed me that very few guys are exceptional.   Therefore, armed with that knowledge .. can only help you realize that what matters to a girl is more of what is between your ears..

Not sure this has really much to do with my question, but more a general effect of the lifestyle. Its pretty much had the same effect on me. I had the same idea in my head.. Didn’t think about it much, but felt more confident in knowing i didn’t have to worry about it. Im glad to know it really doesn’t effect people, at least negatively

[Aymz]

like Danee, i feel i benefitted from growing up in a home where clothing was optional, in that my understanding of just how boys and girls differed was easily gained.  how did that help?  well, that, and having excellently matter-of-fact parents who had no embarassment of difficulty in talking about sex with curious children meant at least that when i came to decide for myself that i was ready for it, i knew what that was and where it went!

i think i was without naievety on the subject, and as such was able to make a decision for myself.  however i\'m not sure how much of this was specifically due to naturism and how much was down to being brought up by sensible and realistic parents.

as an adult, has being a naturist affected my sex life?  to be honest, it hasn\'t had a chance to!  i\'ve been single since last year, and before that... with my last boyfriend we were physical before either of us made any attempt to try being casually nude around one another, and when we did so, it was only in the form of a couple of visits to a c/o beach.  yeah, we both went nude and no, it wasnt a problem dissociating it from the sexual nudity we were familiar with.  

if we\'d continued along those lines, could it have been a problem?  could he had had an issue over seperating the casual naked me from the sexual naked me?  or could it have been the case that we lost an element of sexual attraction when the \"mystery\" was gone?  i don\'t know, but reading the responses of others to this thread, i very much doubt that would have happened.

[Gem78]

I cant really add more than has already been said  :-)  I grew up where clothing was optional, so maybe I learnt the differences between the male and the female a little earlier than some, but by the same token I also learnt that there was nothing wrong, nothing rude about being nude.  

As many naturists will also tell you, in a naturist environment it is very easily to even forget you are nude, it feels normal and quite often sexual feelings are thoughts are the furthest from your mind - you are just doing \'ordinary\' things but without the discomfort of clothes.

[DougGCampbell]

I cant really add more than has already been said  :-)  I grew up where clothing was optional, so maybe I learnt the differences between the male and the female a little earlier than some, but by the same token I also learnt that there was nothing wrong, nothing rude about being nude.   

As many naturists will also tell you, in a naturist environment it is very easily to even forget you are nude, it feels normal and quite often sexual feelings and thoughts are the furthest from your mind - you are just doing \'ordinary\' things but without the discomfort of clothes.

Well put Gemma & I agree whole heartedly, especially with the last paragraph.

Just because we\'re nude doesn\'t indicate we\'re more sexually active any more than wearing a pair of trainer\'s makes us a better athlete: it\'s a comfort thing. Sure, we get to see the \'forbidden\' places that the rest of society only sees under more intimate circumstances but so what? The secret in my opinion is the fact that we don\'t go nude for sexual thrills or kicks, we do it because we like it. This means we disassociate nudity from sex.

Equally, I\'m sure each & every one of us looks at members of the opposite sex when nude, but that\'s human nature; we do exactly the same thing when dressed! That doesn\'t however mean that we look at them in a sexual context, clothed or nude makes little difference to us, we just see a person. But ... fellow nudists are more approachable, personable & generally happier people because they\'ve stripped (pardon the pun) one of the barriers that many people judge others by, namely our clothes.

DGC

[butanboy]

hoi,


well it had no effect on me and i dont think it will have actuali i dont know what nuditie has to do with sex
the only feeling i have beeing nude is a feeling of freedom and beeing light as air when swimming or running now that is strange isnt it, its like nothing can stop me.

Lucas

[hardi2b]

I dont know how it affected me, but i will say that i was introduced to nudism by my ex girlfriend when i was 15 and of all my girlfriends since, i miss her the most. i belive because she was the most comfortable with her body and the most sexually confident, now she has been the only nudist i have ever dated so cant say they would all be the same but i will certainly never forget her.
Or the fun we had togeather.

 :-)

[greg2phil]

I dont necessarily see the correlation between nudity and sex in istelf.  I know with my sexual partners I am turned on by them no matter what state of dress or undress.  Although when nude with my sexual partners my body acts a little like putting a bowl of food in front of a dog in that it thinks it knows that somthing good is going to happen real soon and prepares its\' appetite accordingly!!!  Perhaps this is why I dont share my public nudity with lovers.

But when i am not with sexual partners there is no sense of excitement in my being nude, but there is a sensuality.  At the risk of being kicked off the boards and writing something inappropriate, I think there is something sensual about being nude - whether alone or in company.  How many of us love the feeling of the air, sun, surf, water, etc on our naked body.  i for one, at least initially, find it sensual and even arousing.  that is not to say that I find it sexual, though.  Curiously, once the initial reaction is over and I suppose my body has adjusted to its surroundings the sensuality is also gone and it just becomes a comfortable way to live.

Re-reading my post I seem to have rambled - i\'m sorry about that.

[Wolf]

Humm.. Everyone is starting to veer off course here. Some of you are trying to prove, either to us, or yourself, that you see sex and nudity as two different things. I know they are different. Im not debating that or asking you to prove you believe that. Im asking if your nudist lifestyle has changed the way you look at your partner sexually.

 To be more blunt (and do forgive me if I am too blunt)

Does it take more effort to get in the mood? For textiles, all it really takes, is for one to strip down, and bam, there’s the mood. However in a naturalist lifestyle, since striping off doesn’t mean anything, that may not be the simple trigger it is for textiles. Or is it still that simple because of the context or setting or intention it is done in? Yes, nudity and sex are separate, but im just asking about the time when its not separate.

 That, more or less bluntly, is what im asking about.