Uncomfortable Being Nude Around Parents?

[melissa91]

In talking to some very kind people about my situation (it's on the introductions thread for those who are unfamiliar), I'm coming to the conclusion that I'm almost sure I want to adapt to a more nudist lifestyle and and engage in more nudist activities (at resorts, beaches, etc..).

The issue I keep returning to, however, is that I'm not too keen on doing this with my parents (which is what they've suggested, as I'm only 17 and will have to go with them at least I turn 18). I could see myself being cool around my mom, but the thought of my dad seeing me in the buff -- given that he hasn't seen me that way since I was in diapers -- honestly freaks me out.

My parents have always practiced naturalism outside of my house (at least while I was home), so it's not like I grew up in a naturalist environment where it was normal to me. It's a bit of a culture chock, actually, but I am curious and interested in trying it out for myself. I'm just not sure I'm ready for "daddy's little girl" to see how much she's, um, matured.

Any thoughts, advice?

[Jackie24]

Hi Melissa,

  At least for me it seems easier to be naked around people that you don't know. Sometimes if they are naked first it will be easier for you to get nude.
I remember the first time I saw my gf husband naked. She invited me for CO hot tub. I had a suit on and she and her husband pulled off there robes.
They were both cleanly shaved and his penis had a forskin. ( Unlike my guy ). I think I was more afraid of seeing them nude then they see me.
I stripped off and enjoyed it. Are you concerned at seeing your Dad nude ?

Love Jackie

[drivermatt]

Hi Melissa

I think like most things in life we are scared of the unknown and what we are afraid of are other peoples thoughts.
When i went to my first nude swim on my own a couple of weeks ago i was really nervous but when I got there met the people that ran the swim it calmed me down as they didn't do or say what I was afraid of i don't know if this is the same with you and your dad he has most likely seen girls your age at the beach/resort they go to. Unless you have piercings that they don't know about your dad will accept you for a young woman that you are.

hope that helps
matt

[Aaron Stern]

Hi Melissa, I just read your post and talked to my dad about it.  You wrote,

I'm just not sure I'm ready for "daddy's little girl" to see how much she's, um, matured.

and my dad's reply was (as far as his own daughter Sarah goes), "For a dad, who was, after all, part in 'making'
this child, it's a beautiful thing to see her grow up and mature to become a young lady.  To be honest, once
Sarah started dating, I was always a little 'envious', knowing she's not 'my little girl' anymore, but that's the way
life goes, and I'm very happy she's with Mark now.  And, as her dad, it always brings me joy to see how beautiful
she is, reminds me of your mom!" (sorry, I'm paraphrasing here).   Just wanted you to hear the argument from a
dad's perspective  !  Good luck and take care, Aaron

[Krissy16]

I would have to agree with Aaron somewhat here... I'm the oldest in my family, but my dad says that I'll always be his "little girl".  He says I was the first, and that puts me in a special place in his heart... He also says that my sister was last, and that puts her in a special place too, but it's different.  My parents have always been into nudism/naturism as long as I've been alive, perhaps kinda like yours Melissa, but I've always participated and we've always been home nudists too.  I'm so used to being naked around my parents that I don't even think about it, and they don't either.  It's actually when I get dressed that they say things like "where are you going?" because it normally means that I am going somewhere! 

I would tell you to just go for it!  Your dad will be fine.  And, even if you do feel a bit weird about it at first, that feeling will wear off pretty quickly and it will just seem normal.  I suspect that your parents may even be relieved if you do start participating with them... it's like they still kinda have to hide being naked, and if you participate, then that ends... I'd just say take off your clothes right now and go out and tell them that you're not going to wear clothes at home anymore and that you want to go with them next time they go to a club or beach!!  Go for it!  What are you waiting for???

Hope it helps!

Krissy

[rumdiary]

I think perhaps you're thinking about it too much.  The more you build it up to be something more than it isn't, the less likely it will be enjoyable.  Dwelling on the positives and negatives and all that is far less constructive than just trying it out and seeing how it goes.  It will be nerve-wrecking at first, but once you're past that it should be all good

[rc]

melissa91 I can see what you mean and I know the bigger story behind this, it does have a lot to do with growing older, and changing in that way. However there is another side of this to which I think you are scared of, I do not want to say it here but you are scared of males in a sense, just you have aged so much and no man has seen you nude since you were young, but it is okay. My best advice is as soon as you arrive at the camp split away from your parents and other crowds and find a quiet area you feel safe with, where no one is around then get naked and once you are comftable there, open your boundaires. I hope this info you find help ful

[melissa91]

RC, it's not that i'm "scared of males;" in fact, i have had a bf who has seen at least some of me (not completely naked, but close). i do admit there is an apprehension on my part, though, because i'm not used to random guys (i.e. not a close friend or bf) seeing me naked. perhaps i have trust or security issues in that regard, but it's not a fear of men.

and given that some girls on this forum say that their parents don't even know about their lifestyle, i'm obviously not the only one who feels nervous or awkward about her father seeing her bare.

[8monkeys8]

In some ways you are lucky to have parents with actual nude lifestyle experience at all. I had a dad who walked around naked and my mom hated it and put an end to it. I don't think I could tell my parents at this point... maybe way later but not now for sure. I imagine though, that for you, it would be kind of like ripping of a band-aid or jumping into a cold lake. the first 10 seconds will be intense but after that things will settle.

It's not so bad and better to do it now and have the rest of your naked life in comfort in front of you!!!   

[sara]

It's not so bad and better to do it now and have the rest of your naked life in comfort in front of you!!!   

Hi, Melissa, I'd say that is very true.  If you really think that a naturist lifestyle may be for you, the sooner you get into it the better.

Yes, there willl always be some initial worries, and being with your parents seem to be making yours more.

But, hun, that first real experience with your Mum and Dad, as others have said is going to be so much a better experience if you can really possibly put these worries, concerns and general negative thoughts as much as possible to the side.

To me, you need to determine in advance that this is going to be an enjoyable experience, get there take off your clothes and  then look around what's there, try and participate, talk and just really try to make it a day to remember for the right reasons.

What I am suggesting may be too much in whole, in that there are probably still going to be early concerns, it seems particularly with your Dad.  But he will be naked like other folk and you, and I feel sure that if in the right mindset the initial worries. awkwardness will pass and you could be on your way to a great njoyment of a new freedom for the future.

The experience could still be bad though if you let it be, if you take to it too many worries etc and keep them in your mind.

You CAN enjoy this, and the more you believe this, you WILL enjoy it.

I wish you all the best

Sara 

[jeep]

melisa, could i suggest going nude either at home or at a beach or resort what ever with just your mom for the first or first few times. This may make you feel more comfortable untill being nude feels like second nature. Remember its your mom and dad who are the two people you should be able to trust and feel safe with more than any other, and they will ensure your saftey and that no guy (Or girl) can harm you in any way more than anyone else also. It is common for women especialy to feel rightly or not that men are looking at them and therefore feel uncomfortable, but always remember that a look or a thought in an other persons head can never hurt you. Its only thought put into action that can cause harm to you, and your parents would never let that happen. So go for it mate you have nothing to worry about.

[rc]

melisa, could i suggest going nude either at home or at a beach or resort what ever with just your mom for the first or first few times. This may make you feel more comfortable untill being nude feels like second nature. Remember its your mom and dad who are the two people you should be able to trust and feel safe with more than any other, and they will ensure your saftey and that no guy (Or girl) can harm you in any way more than anyone else also. It is common for women especialy to feel rightly or not that men are looking at them and therefore feel uncomfortable, but always remember that a look or a thought in an other persons head can never hurt you. Its only thought put into action that can cause harm to you, and your parents would never let that happen. So go for it mate you have nothing to worry about.

 

[kensington25]

Some great responses to Melissa here. Just take it one step at a time at your pace and do what makes you comfortable. Remember nobody should be able to force you to do what you do not want to do. Please do let us know how everything goes

[ChristineF]

Just don't let ANYONE push you into doing something you're not ready for...... take your time and do what you're comfortable with......

[Krissy16]

Just don't let ANYONE push you into doing something you're not ready for...... take your time and do what you're comfortable with......

Hmmm.... is the ANYONE referring to me Christine?????????? 

I do agree Melissa... It's got to be your decision, but give it a chance.  I think you'll find it's well worth it once you get over the initial fear!  Some of my friends got started by coming here and skinny dipping or laying out nude... Normally just with me or me and my mom... So I think going with just your mom is a good suggestion!